The other half!

my cooking:)

Women in general are more sensitive than men. Is this something new? Of course not! However, things get worse when women start to become less sensitive or pretending to be like a men! i.e. use other half of their mind, being like a man!
on the other hand, men are afraid to express their sensitivity and affection. We never wish to show our love or the other half of ours! Because we are men! How did I realize that! (you may say, ya, right!)
Simple, a man’s phone conversation is short. We never complain of our partners to anyone! We tend to talk simple and short. We never say how things are in details.

However, women talk in details. Men observe women get involved then get devastated and then things get to crying! we avoid that becasue we don’t want to be like them and cry! we consider ourselves men! Men don’t want get involved because we are mainly afraid of the dependency issues!

So, what made me wonder, therefore, when men decide to get married, is that for real, or just something because men wish to do!!

[everything is written above is just my observation and that is not generalized to all, there are many who do not act as is explained above!]

Excessive happiness!

0. This link is for those who like to hit me becasue of the link I putup previously! or those who hate me! or those who hate guys!!:)
1. This is the complete article that Azaris are found disturbing!

2. some funny notes and caricatures for football lovers:)

3. Watching Patch Adams after a while is the reminder how different we can be in our work we do. You can read about real Patch Adams and his Gesundheit clinic here.
Everytime I see the movie I get facinated with the speech that Rabin Williams gives in front of the panel of medical Doctors.
I found the script and wish to put it up:
You've been accused of practicing medicine without a license.
That's a very grave charge, son.

Are you aware that it's unlawful to practice medicine without a medical license?
Yes, sir, I am.
Are you aware that running a medical clinic without the proper licensing...
can place both you and the public...
in a great deal of danger?
Is a home a clinic, sir?
If you are admitting patients and treating them...
physical location is irrelevant.

If you are admitting patients and treating them...
physical location is irrelevant.
Sir, will you define treatment for me?
Yes. Treatment would be defined as the care of a patient seeking medical attention.
Have you been treating patients, Mr. Adams?
I live with several people. They come and go as they please.
I offer them whatever help I can.
Mr. Adams...
have you or have you not been treating patients at your ranch?
Everyone who comes to the ranch is a patient, yes.
and every person who comes to the ranch is also a doctor.
I'm sorry?

Every person who comes to the ranch is in need...
of some form of physical or mental help.
They're patients. But also every person who comes to the ranch is in charge of taking care of someone else--
whether it's cooking for them, cleaning them...
or even as simple a task as listening.
That makes them doctors.
I use that term broadly, but is not a doctor someone who helps someone else?
When did the term "doctor" get treated with such reverence, as, "Right this way, Doctor Smith"...
or, "Excuse me, Dr. Scholl, what wonderful footpads"...
or, "Pardon me, Dr. Patterson, but your flatulence has no odor"?
At what point in history did a doctor become more...
than a trusted and learned friend who visited and treated the ill?
Now, you ask me if I've been practicing medicine.
Well, if this means opening your door to those in need--
those in pain--
caring for them, listening to them, applying a cold cloth until a fever breaks--
if this is practicing medicine, if this is treating a patient...
then I am guilty as charged, sir.
Did you consider the ramifications of your actions?
What if one of your patients had died?

What's wrong with death, sir?
What are we so mortally afraid of?
Why can't we treat death with a certain amount of humanity and dignity and decency...
and, God forbid, maybe even humor?
Death is not the enemy, gentlemen.
If we're gonna fight a disease, let's fight one of the most terrible diseases of all--
indifference.
Now, I've sat in your schools and heard people lecture on transference...
and professional distance.
Transference is inevitable, sir.
Every human being has an impact on another.
Why don't we want that in a patient/doctor relationship?
That's why I've listened to your teachings, and I believe they're wrong.
A doctor's mission should be not just to prevent death...
but also to improve the quality of life.
That's why you treat a disease, you win, you lose.
You treat a person, I guarantee you, you win, no matter what the outcome.
Now here today, this room is full of medical students.
Don't let them anesthetize you. Don't let them numb you out to the miracle of life.
Always live in awe of the glorious mechanism of the human body.
Let that be the focus of your studies and not a quest for grades...
which'll give you no idea what kind of doctor you will become.
Please try and address the board.
Don't wait till you're on the ward to get your humanity back.
Start your interviewing skills. Start talking to strangers.

Talk to your friends, Talk to wrong numbers, everyone.
- Mr. Adams! - And cultivate friendships...
with those amazing people in the back of the room-- nurses that could teach you.
They've been with people every day. They wade through blood and shit.
They have a wealth of knowledge, and so do the professors you respect--
the ones who are not dead from the heart up.
- Share their compassion. Let that be contagious. - Mr. Adams.
I demand that you turn and address the board.
Sir, I want to be a doctor with all my heart.
I wanted to become a doctor so I could serve others...
and because of that I've lost everything...
but I've also gained everything.
I've shared the lives of patients and staff members at the hospital.
I've laughed with them. I've cried with them.
This is what I want to do with my life.
And as God is my witness...
no matter what your decision today, sir...
I will still become the best damn doctor the world has ever seen.
Now you have the ability to prevent me from graduating.
You can keep me from getting the title and the white coat.
But you can't control my spirit, gentlemen.
You can't keep me from learning. You can't keep me from studying.
So you have a choice-- you could have me as a professional colleague...
passionate...
or you can have me as an outspoken outsider, still adamant.
Either way, I'll probably still be viewed as a thorn.

United for Iranians right, including women and minority.

1. I am starting to worry about Iran. I truly hope that people start to find a unified side to fight this inhuman regime, rather than targeting this none-sense of race fighting. Azari, Balooch, Arab, Jews, Armenian, Ashori, etc. all are Iranians. Proud Iranians. I love them all. I am sure, because to those I have always talked to around the world they said so. Now, Iran is participating in World cup we show that all of Iran is behind it.
This is link to University Students protests and hopefully people can be informed of what is going on in the university. The news are in Persian.

2. I watched offside or
read the summary here in English movie. It is well developed movie. The script and quality wise to other Jaffar Panahi’s movies that I had seen, (i.e. Color of god, white ballon, etc.) this movie was not as good as those. However, despite the big comic theme and satire all along the movie, it embraced me to the tears! It reminded me how limited and suppress are women in Iran. Just for simple fun and energy release they can’t do what they wish to do along side other gender! Of course, when we limit this simple and certain demands, one day they explode. The explosion is what we are seeing in Iran. Don’t want to elaborate on that. I think what the movie really showed that all the people, those young guys who are there for fun and the simple soldiers are all want to have fun and live with other countrymen in harmony and peace. The only people who are preventing such harmony to be accomplished are those Chubby, huge Haji-s with full beard who feel world is underneath of their foot and what they do is right! What made me angry is the fact this regime purposely treats the women and many other minorities and countrymen of mine as a second level citizens! This made me so sad, that I started to cry in the end, although considering the scenes it was funny movie. Interesting it was that I think except 4 people who were Iranian in the theater the rest were non Iranians. In a crowd of 50 people. I was quite impressed.
I hope it comes that day that I see all citizens of Iran free and equal. I want to tell every young girl in Iran that they can become what they wish to.

3. Short marriage (Sigheh) and people’s memory! (don’t blame me for this site! I found it surprising and wish to share the view!)

Some speeches from me!

1. This is in honor of our own Azari. As you see this is the caricature that has all the fuss started about!

2. Da Vinci code movies is here, haven't seen it yet. hoping to go and watch it.
however, I wish to add after reading the book, all it was saying was that our understainding and perception of the world around us solely depends on our own views and beliefes from the world around us.
i.e. if I am a scientist; so I see world differently from a physician and so on! that is the truth! so, as I always have said: faith or belief is not argumental, either believe it or not believe in it!

3. Thanks to Kimia who sent me the Darioush's song I requested in my previous write up. I have, now got a tick of that song in my brain!:-) I keep either playing it or it is getting played in my head! but, that song is great in the meaning! and quite it is truth!

4. I am big fan of Sting. His song known as fragile is one of his greatest work and its meaning is great, too.

If blood will flow when fresh and steel are one
Drying in the colour of the evening sun
Tomorrows rain will wash the stains away
But something in our minds will always stay
Perhaps this final act was meant
To clinch a lifetimes argument
That nothing comes from violence and nothing ever could
For all those born beneath an angry star
Lest we forget how fragile we are

On and on the rain will fall
Like tears from a star like tears from a star
On and on the rain will say
How fragile we are how fragile we are

On and on the rain will fall
Like tears from a star like tears from a star
On and on the rain will say
How fragile we are how fragile we are
How fragile we are how fragile we are

2 words of wisdom! ya right!

1. enjoy the Dance!

2. One major differences among Iranian and western girls is the fact that the first thing that Western girl is looking for is sense of humor. However, Iranian girls perhaps does not consider sense of humor as a major factor in life!
Of course, this is my own understanding. I, personally, think you should be able to make fun on anything and everything, from sex, to quite serious topics. However, in right timing and appropriate taste. Who defines this taste? I think the reader, your audience. If you hear appreciation from them then you know you are more or less on the right track.

Having said that I just read that a caricaturist and the editor in chief of Iran weekly newspaper are arrested by Iranian government!
Reason is given that they made fun of Turkish minority and so to say have created the chaos. Some Azerbaijani Friends are feeling betrayal from Fars spoken people in Iran!
My Origin goes back to Azerbaijan from both sides, so I call myself, Turke 2- tabagheh!!

Having said that, if we stop making satire or fun of the things around us, very soon nothing will remain to make fun of, except angles and heaven, since God is also not soemthing to make fun of! Don’t you agree!!?

Announcement and wanted!

I am looking for Darioush song called: Man ra be khaneam bebar. If someone has it in mp3 format please send it to me!
thanks,

Bicycle in Switzerland

0. I had a good weekend with Salman. I went there on Satuday and prepared some pasta with my own style and had a dinner, together.
Came back around afternoon and then the German and Polish girl in my house asked me if I wish to go along to Rheinfall in Schaffhausen. Apparently, it is largest fall in Europe.

1. In Switzerland almost everyone ride a bicycle. For the past 10.5 months I have been looking for cheap one or to get a one for free! becasue I think for the time being all I do with bicycle is just cummoting from work to home.
anyhow, few days ago I was pasing by bicycle repaireshop in our institute and talked to the guy about if he has a bicycle or free:) He offered me this WWII bicycle (see the photos):)
if you wonder where the brake is! hum, I have to tell you it is by the paddles! nice, isn't it?! you paddle backward and it creates opposite drag and you stop!
technology! I think I had once seen one of these type of bicycles about 20 years ago in Iran!

2. have a look at this link. There is always someone above us:)

3. It remind me of Joni Mitchell song known as both side of story:

Rows and flows of angel hair
And ice cream castles in the air
And feather canyons everywhere
I've looked at clouds that way

But now they only block the sun
They rain and THEY snow on everyone
So many things I would have done
But clouds got in my way

I've looked at clouds from both sides now
From up and down, and still somehow
It's cloud illusions I recall
I really don't know clouds at all

Moons and Junes and Ferris wheels
The dizzy dancing way THAT you feel
As every fairy tale comes real
I've looked at love that way

But now it's just another show
You leave 'em laughing when you go
And if you care, don't let them know
Don't give yourself away

I've looked at love from both sides now
From give and take, and still somehow
It's love's illusions I recall
I really don't know love at all

Tears and fears and feeling proud
To say "I love you" right out loud
Dreams and schemes and circus crowds
I've looked at life that way

Oh but now old friends are acting strange
They shake their heads, they say I've changed
Well something's lost but something's gained
In living every day

I've looked at life from both sides now
From up and down and still somehow
It's life's illusions I recall
I really don't know life at all

carry each other!

1. Home the cozy home, it brings me many sweet and biter memories,
Home, where from one side I could see the mountains from the other side the oceans
Home is where I used to play!
Or is just the place you feel at home!
Where is my home, really?
Home is where our heart, in our brain are!
Home is our heart or in our brain!
Take me home, I don't no where home is!

Everything is in our brain. What do I mean? After reading new story of Valentine, I recalled that many of us keep saying I can’t do this, I can’t do that. But these are all in our brain. So, do as you wish and you will be successful. It takes time and practice but you will prevail! just needs to be persistant! Despite all odds keep going! of course, if you believe in it!

The One from U2:

Is it getting better?
Or do you feel the same?
Will it make it easier on you now?
You got someone to blame
You say
One love
One life
When it's one need
In the night
One love
We get to share it
Leaves you baby if you
Don't care for it

Did I disappoint you?
Or leave a bad taste in your mouth?
You act like you never had love
And you want me to go without
Well it's

Too late
Tonight
To drag the past out into the light
We're one, but we're not the same
We get to
carry each other
carry each other
One

Have you come here for forgiveness?
Have you come to raise the dead?
Have you come here to play Jesus?
To the lepers in your head

Did I ask too much?
More than a lot.
You gave me nothing,
Now it's all I've got
We're one
But we're not the same
Well we
Hurt each other
Then we do it again
You say
Love is a temple
Love is the higher law
Love is a temple
Love is the higher law
You ask me to enter
But then You make me crawl
And I can't be holding on
To what You got
When all You've got is hurt

One love
One blood
One life
You got to do what you should
One life
With each other
Sisters
Brothers
One life
But we're not the same
We get to
Carry each other
Carry each other

One...
One...

extended version

Can You hear us coming Lord
Can You hear us call
Feel us knocking
We're knocking at Your door

Give peace a chance!

1. Aytolay Hassani latest words in Persian. for laugh. I mean it is truth!

2.I try to read news more or less everyday on the internet (isn't this what it tells me I am getting older!:-). Everyday, I hear so much violence around the world (Iraq, Iran, Afganestan, Africa, America, Canada, France, etc.) that it makes me wonder what is with the people? are we losing the grip of our mind, body?!
I think the major problem is initiated from family. We experience the violence in the family so, people tend to get to used to it! and then to empty themselves they imply that on others. Just have a look at the news in South east of Iran, 12 passangers were excuted by group of banditti!
may be John Lennon said it well when he said:
all we are saying is give peace a chance!

May be as Shohrab Sepehri the contemperary poet said it well, on the other hand: we should clear (i.e. wash away) our eyes from what is seeing now and have a different look at the surroundings!

Two, one, two, three, four
Ev'rybody's talking about
Bagism, Shagism, Dragism, Madism,
Ragism, Tagism
This-ism, That-ism, is-m, is-m, is-m
All we are saying is give peace a chance,
All we are saying is give peace a chance
C'mon
Ev'rybody's talking about ministers,
Sinister, Banisters
And canisters, Bishops, Fishops,
Rabbis, and Pop eyes, Bye, bye, bye byes
All we are saying is give peace a chance,
All we are saying is give peace a chance
Let me tell you now
Revoluton, evolution, masturbation,
Flagellation, regulation, integrations,
Meditations, United Nations,
Congratulations
Ev'rybody's talking about
John and Yoko, Timmy Leary, Rosemary,
Tommy Smothers, Bobby Dylan,
Tommy Copper,
Derek Taylor, Norman Mailer,
Allen Ginsberg, Hare Krishna,
Hare Krishna
All we are saying is give peace a chance
All we are saying is give peace a chance

Some motivational and not so motivational speech!

for the time being!

1. let it go!!!

2. if your today is like yesterday and you sure your tomorrow will be same as today, you better try something else to do!

3. I have started a link dump and wish to put up the interesting links in that. However, not sure if people in Iran can see it!
Link this one, it is quite interesting!

Some thoughts!

1. Women say we need a man who stays with us and loves us for who we are! That is why we can’t find one!

2. Men say we need woman who loves us for who we are! not for money!
2.1. Men have affair because they are not happy with their partner!
2.2. Women have sex with another person because she is not happy with her partner, but she considers that just a F..k, nothing more! It is different with the F..k with the real partner of hers!!

3. Four ingredients of being together: mutual interest and pleasure, compromise and not being selfish!

4. It is told many of those who get married today will be available in market within next ten years!!


5. I was looking for some papers in science directory and I just saw this paper was put on th first page!!:


Gender differences in alcohol and substance use relapse

Kimberly S. Walitzer, and Ronda L. Dearing

Research Institute on Addictions/University at Buffalo, 1021 Main St., Buffalo, NY 14203, United States

Abstract
This review explores gender differences in relapse and characteristics of relapse events in alcohol and substance use. For alcohol, relapse rates were similar across gender. Although negative mood, childhood sexual abuse, alcohol-related self-efficacy, and poorer coping strategies predicted alcohol relapse, gender did not moderate these effects. Gender did moderate the association between marriage and alcohol relapse. For women, marriage and marital stress were risk factors for alcohol relapse; among men, marriage lowered relapse risk. This gender difference in the role of marriage in relapse may be a result of partner differences in problem drinking. Alcoholic women are more likely to be married to heavy drinking partners than are alcoholic men; thus, alcoholic women may be put at risk of relapse by marriage and alcoholic men may be protected by marriage. There are fewer studies documenting gender differences in substance abuse relapse so conclusions are limited and tentative. In contrast to the lack of gender differences in alcohol relapse rates, women appear less likely to experience relapse to substance use, relative to men. Women relapsing to substance use appear to be more sensitive to negative affect and interpersonal problems. Men, in contrast, may be more likely to have positive experiences prior to relapse.

A Canadian Journey in Iran

Picture does not show Garmeh, it is Yazd area!

1. This is hilarious . on one hand Iran said we can now enriched our own uraninum and can make Nuclear power station fuels! Now, protesting against Russia why they are delaying to transport Fuel for Boshehr nuclear power stations!! I am not sure what to believe!!

2. Everyone is gone for lunch here at the office, I decided to post this story. Mr. Andy LLoyd a Journalist major from Ryerson University, Canada, had a trip to Iran last year. His perception of Iran was previously conveyed in one of his writing here. This is his special freelence work to Toronto Star To Garmeh a desert village at center of Iran.
read the rest from his work.

GARMEH, IRAN -- The daily bus from Esfahan lurches around its last corner and comes to a stop in Khour's main square. A crowd of men and young children jump to their feet, craning their necks to see who's on board. In this dusty desert town in central Iran, a rare bus arrival is of considerable interest, even at 9: 30 p.m.

As I step off the 1970s-era Mercedes bus, the children pick me out of the crowd in seconds. "Touristi, touristi," they shout, trying unsuccessfully to suppress their giggles. Two men approach me amidst all the commotion; they know exactly where I'm going.

"Garmeh. Maziar," one says, pointing to a nearby car. Every tourist who gets off that bus is going to the same place. Yesterday it was a German, a Brit and a Czech. Today, a Canadian. For a few dollars, the man offers to take me 40 kilometres south into the desert to Garmeh, a place inaccessible by public transportation.

Garmeh is a tiny oasis in Iran's vast central desert, the Dasht-e Kavir, surrounded on all sides by an arid landscape that stretches to the horizon. On the edge of the oasis is a village with just 200 residents. Its houses hug the edge of a veritable forest: a tropical paradise of date palms and pomegranate trees, of fruits and vegetables and gurgling springs.

Garmeh, which means "hot" in Farsi, had all but fallen off the map until recently, when Tehran artist Maziar Ale Davoud and his wife Ariane transformed it into one of Iran's must-see, off-the-beaten-track destinations.

Ale Davoud moved back to Garmeh from Tehran to renovate his family's ancestral home, turning it into one of Iran's most authentic accommodations. It's a true desert guesthouse.

I arrive with my driver well after 10 p.m. He navigates the narrow lanes of the village as far as possible before killing the engine. We step out of the car into silence.

Across a narrow dirt lane, two camels stare at me from behind the wall of their adobe shelter.

Somewhere nearby, a dog barks, breaking the silence. There are guests in the village. We've arrived.

"Garmeh. Maziar," the driver repeats, pointing ahead of us. I hesitate at the entrance to the mud-brick home. Known locally as Maziar, Ale Davoud's unmarked guesthouse is formally named Ateshoni.

The painstakingly restored home is set up around a central courtyard that serves as a dining area and meeting place. It's a traditional house in every sense. The carpeted lounge is lined with pillows; no furniture here. The walls are carefully plastered with mud and bits of grass. In the kitchen, communal drinking water hangs from the ceiling in a leather skin. A tin pot rattles away all day on the stovetop with water for tea at the ready.

Meals are taken on the carpeted lounge floor and sleeping accommodation is in the traditional style, a mattress rolled out on the floor. The bedrooms are comfortably furnished and tastefully decorated with handmade ceramics and desert-inspired art.

Guests quickly realize this is no hotel. It truly feels as if you are staying with the Ale Davoud family, and in fact you are. It's their home. Ale Davoud's parents prepare meals for the family and the guests. Everyone eats together. In the evenings, Ale Davoud and his wife chat with travellers over tea.

The couple is responsible for what is shaping up to be Garmeh's renaissance. Over the past decade, the once-thriving oasis has seen its population shrink as young people left to seek jobs in the cities. The village is dotted with the crumbling ruins of abandoned houses. In the lush oasis, many of the dates are not harvested; there's no one left to pick them.

But Ateshoni is starting to draw a steady stream of international tourists en route between Esfahan and Yazd, two of Iran's tourism hot spots. Ale Davoud's guesthouse is now listed in a popular travel guidebook for Iran, and he's even booking small tour groups.

Since there isn't much to do, Ale Davoud has created attractions. He organizes tours in the surrounding area. He offers camel rides in the desert, day trips to rolling sand dunes and visits to the chillingly sterile salt desert. There are cycling excursions and even paragliding.

But it's hard to beat an afternoon in Garmeh's oasis. Dirt tracks criss-cross the surprisingly vast forest of date palms, interspersed with pomegranates, pistachios, figs and apricots. Other than the occasional bird song, the silence is absolute.

Good book in hand, I spend a silent afternoon in this desert paradise. There are only a few villagers working in the oasis. They saunter back and forth between plots, with fresh clippings on their backs. This is an oasis for the mind; a place where stillness is around every corner.

That is Garmeh's true attraction.

If you go:
At $20 (U.S.) a night, the price at Ateshoni includes three home-cooked traditional Iranian meals a day. It's all you'll spend. There is nowhere to buy anything.
The easiest way to reach Garmeh is from Esfahan. A daily bus runs to Khour (six hours). From Khour, taxis take you to Garmeh. By car, Garmeh is about 700 km southeast of Tehran and 400 km east of Esfahan.
There are no direct flights between Canada and Iran, but most European carriers offer connecting service.

Two simple comparisons!

I traveled to Dubai during Iranian New Year. This is the time of the year that many Iranians from almost any walks of life traveling to Dubai for many purposes. One would be going for shopping, another may be going there to attend LA based singers and entertainers concerts, and some to just enjoy the more freedom that is granted compare to current Iranian society. As an experiment I started to observer people. This trip gave me the opportunity talking to many different people especially from Iran who were there for those reasons I have already mentioned.
Talking to many young Iranians, who were with veil or without veil, boys and girls, I came under impression none of them are happy with the current status quo and they wished they could stay in Dubai for an unlimited time!!
The first impression of such a thought was obtained while talking to a 16 years old boy from Tehran.
Standing in front of Hotel asking him whether he prefers to stay in Dubai or go back to Iran. which country he prefers to live in? Considering it was his first trip out side of Iran. He felt he really likes Dubai and enjoys being there! His answer was like this, "of course, here, things are better here and more normal!"
Standing there, I fell into some deep thought. How could a young person whose first trip is to U.A.E. so easily leaves all his background and homeland and wishes to take advantage of life abroad! That thought really took me to wonder why a young person grow up to the Iranian society may prefer another society over his, despite many challenges and language barrier!

Of course, if we pass the momentarily consideration of fun, but many of us have done the same thing!

I started to analyze it. I started to think what could be the purpose of such a decision making at the first place!
I thought to myself what are the differences between government during the Shah and after Islamic revolution?

Of course, I have not seen the previous government, technically talking. But reading about it, it does tell me during that era less people wished to leave Iran than they wish today. Statistics shows, today, that young educated Iranians are amongst highest immigrants to western world.
So, I started to think, in both governments, Shah’s era and after revolutions there were deep corruption. If it was for 1000 family and paying money to those close to Shah, same thing is going on today people paying to Mullas and bribe everyone. When we think about secret police, both were and are existing and brutal. When it comes to economy hardship we always had the class differences! When it was coming to democracy we have seen Shah despite his constitutional Monarch was governing. Current regime is also talks about something like Islamic Republic of Iran. However, Vali faghieh, who has final say in everything (women can’t go to Stadiums and example)! There have been always few people deciding on the behalf of all. Discremination has always been there! Both were and are quite suppressive and do very similar approach to isolate their opponents.

So, what is the major difference, then!?

I my humble opinion two factors makes this government worst than previous one:

1. The tension this government creates all along
2. Lack of social happiness and freedom

Since this government has come to power our time and mind has been so much wasted and preoccupied on tensions created in any level of society.
The tensions created have been propagated to our, home, our actions and every step of our life.
I personally was always feeling this tension in our own home. It always seem my father was looking for something worse to come! I could feel that in his gesture, tone! That is exactly, many parents did to their kids; relaying tension in their home. Add to this the scenario of: don’t go out, no where is safe in the town and the fact of you are not allow to mingle with opposite sex on the surface!! You will see how things get unbearable! and out of hand!

Shorts!

Stéphane Dion
1. Mr. Stéphane Dion has been my role model(regarding the dress and style of packpack:) since he was inter-governmental representative between Quebec and rest of Canada in Mr. Jean Chrétien government. His great style of dress and his cool black backpack right in the house of commons was my favorite act of him whenever he had it opened. So, he is also one of contenders to the Liberal Party of Canada leadership. Apparently, he has said that his top priorities will be to promote a healthy environment and national unity.
good luck to him:)

2. Today, I was talking to a Swiss guy whose name is Mark. He is going to get married to his 4 years long Greek girlfriend who have been living together for the same time or little less. He was telling me that they are going to get married earlier than they first planned in the first week of July.
funny it was he said that his finance has just bought her wedding gown and he hasn't done it:) and seen it!!!! ok, I am not sure, we joke quite alot. so, don't know that is the truth!!
but then our conversaition continue like this:

Me: hey Mark, good for you, so finally leap of faith! but do you know that during first week of July it gets coincident with final stage of world cup!!

Mark: damn, I was so busy didn't realize that! so, let me see, I have to send a delegate for the wedding! ah, the most important, I have to get him a new ring, for his finger size!!:))
Me: didn't ask why, but I suppose getting the ring must have been a project to implement!

Swing of the things none-sense, try to make sense!!!

This blog stuff is kinda good thing. I write, to get relief! I write, because I enjoy!
And I write, because I write !!:D
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These is part of the Queens (rahmatolah Alayh):

Sometimes I get to feelin’
I was back in the old days - long ago
When we were kids when we were young
Thing seemed so perfect - you know
The days were endless we were crazy we were young
The sun was always shinin’ - we just lived for fun
Sometimes it seems like lately - I just don’t know
The rest of my life’s been just a show

Those were the days of our lives
The bad things in life were so few
Those days are all gone now but one thing is true
Not all the things you do right, turn to be right …

it all started from here, where?
As a young person I wished to get educated so using my knowledge to help people of Iran and be able to educate them. grow up in revolutionary time in Iranian society, implied the powerless period that I wished to do many things that I felt I was unable to do. A protective parents, made me to look beyond what I had. My goal was to help where the help is needed. I always wished I could be the Pretender (has anyone seen the series?) who could be in one profession any coming day and help people and solve problems as they are rising! Ahan, yop, solving the problem was the reason I picked the engineering field, then!
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What is true is the fact that if about 2 years ago someone would have told me that I will be in Switzerland and doing Phd in biomechanics! I would have not accepted it or even believe it! Probably, I would have told him, ya, you right and had walked away!! I think the probability that I would have ended up dead was much higher than moving to Switzerland!
Looking back and evaluating how things has changed throughout the past 6 years is something that makes me quite wonder. Perhaps, that is where power of decision making comes to play!
Talking about engineering, I think we produce engineers to solve problems. We teach engineers how to systematically and logically infer different conclusions from different problems. But does a full knowledge is sufficient factor for drawing the right conclusions?
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Many of engineers are produced with so much of knowledge, however many lack talent. I think talent is the key tool to provide us with ability to infer and relate completely seemingly unrelated topic to a relevant topic!! Isn’t this what we are supposed to learn in PhD program?! perhaps!

So, technically talking, we have some knowledge, some talent and ability to relate and formulate equations why not doing that in real life! Once the equations are there, we shall find a solution. Isn’t this so called some kind of optimization method? So, the intention is to optimize those equations to find happiness! what optimization method to use, may be you would ask? Of course, each problem needs different attention and solution. But we believe the best optimization is based on our final decision and what we think is right. This is where experience and talent comes into play, simultaneously.
In engineering we try to use software to simulate different possible solutions or decision making. This is done based on different boundry conditions and different changes of interaction with world around us.
but, what is really the simulation environment of real life?! Can we buy one? I think this is the prices we pay for the choices we make! Not everything you think is done rightly, turn out to be right. Sometimes, we feel that we don’t have any choice; however, this is not quite true! May be we don’t know another solution? May be we are ignorant to some. If we look closely in many cases, we will see the broader spectrum of choices! Many of those decisions we make may sound the enemy with in. However, in many cases time will reveal otherwise. So, the question becomes fatalism or determinism!!! And the story continues,…!!!:D

We are the one who must be changed!

Back in one piece! I have been thinking that we tend to complain alot in many circumstances! I mean I tend to complain!
We tend to say why this guy or that women is not complying with what I do at work, and so on! or why this guy doesn't understand what I say, and many other instances!
but isn't that better to change ourselves and bend our minds than asking to change the circumstances?
If there is traffic we tend to use a detour, why not in life, however, let's not lose our respect and conscious! that is what we should rely on to find path of happiness!!!
unbelievable I defined path of happiness in few stancesnts!!!
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I am big fan of pink floyd and David Glimour and this guy once again came out with new album, of course about 10 years ago, named division Bell. I had honor to attened their concert in 1997or was it 1996! time flies!!
one of the songs I like a lot is called High Hopes. These are lyrics:
I am sure many have high Hopes but read closely:)


Beyond the horizon of the place we lived when we were young
In a world of magnets and miracles
Our thoughts strayed constantly and without boundary
The ringing of the division bell had begun

Along the Long Road and on down the Causeway
Do they still meet there by the Cut

There was a ragged band that followed in our footsteps
Running before times took our dreams away
Leaving the myriad small creatures trying to tie us to the ground
To a life consumed by slow decay

The grass was greener
The light was brighter
When friends surrounded
The nights of wonder

Looking beyond the embers of bridges glowing behind us
To a glimpse of how green it was on the other side
Steps taken forwards but sleepwalking back again
Dragged by the force of some inner tide
At a higher altitude with flag unfurled
We reached the dizzy heights of that dreamed of world

Encumbered forever by desire and ambition
There's a hunger still unsatisfied
Our weary eyes still stray to the horizon
Though down this road we've been so many times

The grass was greener
The light was brighter
The taste was sweeter
The nights of wonder
With friends surrounded
The dawn mist glowing
The water flowing
The endless river

Forever and ever

p.s. anyone interested I can send this song to him/her.