Partner to be or not to be?!

The other day I was talking to a friend of mine who has recently broke up with a boyfriend. She was quite sad and telling me that she still has feeling for his ex-boyfriend. She wondered if this feeling grows, she would have a difficult time to brake away from past and go on with her life.

I give her the following advice.

It is quite difficult to forget someone you loved. In my humble opinion, the only way that someone may be able to say a complete good bye to his/her past is to close that chapter of her life. I don’t mean killing yourself or anything close to it! Not at all. I mean you have to come to peace of mind with yourself in regard of your past relationship. On the other hand, you must take away the pain before you start your life again.
You have to see why you broke up with your partner. Was it for a good reason? Did s/he break one of the factors that you praised? Does s/he care for you as much as you care for her/him? Did you both draw the same conclusion not being able to stay together? Were you able to compromise and you didn’t? Have you been fighting for a long? Does your original reason worth fighting for?

If you could answer all the questions stated above, we may come to a peace with ourselves. Consequently, we close this chapter of our life. No, need to further thinking of it. We meet people all along our life, we may fall in love, however, our soul mates may be somewhere else standing waiting by an open arm for us!!;-)