Nobody loves me:D, but I's still standing

There is this guy at my work who is most eligible bachelor and he still doesn't get married! The purpose; I have no idea! but we joke around and whenever we see each other where we check our mail boxes in the office and see there is no mail, I tell him: "I think nobody loves us...":))...
SO, this is song by Elton John. I am sure all of you have heard it. Thought it is an appropraite answer to that above sentence:D

You could never know what it's like
Your blood like winter freezes just like ice
And there's a cold lonely light that shines from you
You'll wind up like the wreck you hide behind that mask you use

And did you think this fool could never win
Well look at me, I'm coming back again
I got a taste of love in a simple way
And if you need to know while I'm still standing you just fade away

Don't you know I'm still standing better than I ever did
Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid
I'm still standing after all this time
Picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind

I'm still standing yeah yeah yeah
I'm still standing yeah yeah yeah

Once I never could hope to win
You starting down the road leaving me again
The threats you made were meant to cut me down
And if our love was just a circus you'd be a clown by now

2.Just recently received two comments about my weblog in "we are Iran" book from two US people! apparently, my name is really written in there:D. What makes me wonder is, I truly, always felt lots of stories, bahla bahla, I write are just mumble of my own thoughts and nobody enjoys reading them! (exception goes to some friends around my weblog). but apparently, people read some of my writings!!

Happy Iranian New Year

One of the very few poems that I recall from my highschool years in Iran is the following that whenever is Iranian New year I can't avoid to remember it:

Nafase bade saaba moshk feshan khahad shod
AAlame pir degar bareh javan khahad shod
Arghavan jame aghighi be saman khahad dad
Dele narges be shaghayegh begaran khahad shod
(Hafez)

I wish everyone a healthy and prosperous new year. May all your wishes fulfilled in this coming year and leave, though, some for the next years to come, so your life does not get boring:D

shad bashid

no matter who you are and where you are from...!

1.1.1. How could I forget no to say HAPPY CHAHAR SHANBEH SURI. Chahr shanbeh sorri 1991 was the time that I made my decision to leave Iran and almost never live in Iran
for more than a few months! I may write that occasion! It worth reviewing!
For detail of hahrshanbeh suri: read here!
and this is very detail of Chahr shanbeh suri.

1.1. About 13 years ago when I first arrived in Canada, such a gathering would have been considered fancy and un realistic.
what am I talking about, you wonder? yes, the Nourooz gathering of Iranians in Toronto known as under Azur dome or Zire gonbade Kabood. I would say but now seeing so many Iranians in Toronto, I wouldn't consider this magic! I would say great job, hopfully you can get many other communities to participate and appreciate our "legendary" Noorouz (didn't like to use traditional word:-0).
So, must be interesting being in Canada this time of year! for those who are, lot of fun:)

1. I have realized no matter where you are from or who you are, females in general love to have a partner before their 30s! before you jump to any conclusion, I think men also think the same, but women are probably 10 times more likely feeling depressed if they pass 30s and don't have a partner. How do I know?! my interview with whomeever women I have talked to and were between ages 25 to 30s if they were not engaged with a partner, they'd sounded so depressed that I felt my god I should get married to them, then divorce, so they may feel better (this is a joke, don't take it seriously!; in Europe it seems lots of women get married around 24 and are divorced by 30s, that is why I said that!:-); and those are with partner when I brought up the word of marriage or living together, they jump up, "yes"; "I am trying to get my boyfriend to doing so, but he still avoids it!!!"
but I think girls (and guys) in general have two phases in their life, up to 25 (32 for men), a denial phase as I call it!"who wants to get married" and then reality phase: "no matter what we shall find a partner!!:, "of course I want to get married!", "where are the potential dudes (dudette for guys!)":)

However, no matter what as Alanis Morissette said in her song:

that I would be good even if I did nothing
that I would be good even if I got the thumbs down
that I would be good if I got and stayed sick
that I would be good even if I gained ten pounds

that I would be fine even if I went bankrupt
that I would be good if I lost my hair and my youth
that I would be great if I was no longer queen
that I would be grand if I was not all knowing

that I would be loved even when I numb myself
that I would be good even when I am overwhelmed
that I would be loved even when I was fuming
that I would be good even if I was clingy

that I would be good even if I lost sanity
that I would be good
whether with or without you

better late than never!

1. I have read in the news that the peaceful gathering by women in Tehran on the women's day, was viciously broken by special revolutionary guards.
As a person who feels women in Iran should have more freedom and get their rights I am adding these links in my weblog.
I personally think this kind of protests are great, however, the attitudes and our views must be changed! I mean all of us. the way treat women and look at many aspects of our coupling life. Women aslo have to change their views. I wonder how long it takes for us to see it will to happen.
read and see some photos
here!

2. I went skiing to Davos this saturday with our department. I had a great time. For the first time I felt I ski in switzerland. The weather was, however, wind plus snow. though we skiied the entire day. It was sucha great feeling to ski with so many people whose average age is 45 and skiing superbly!

My thoughts on Iran Nuclear issues and sanctions!

1. You know I do not think any country including Iran must start nuclear energy! Why?
Simple having so much clean energy around us (wind, wave, sun, geotechnic, etc.)available for us, it is nonsense to start such an expensive and dangerous energy. Having stated that, I also think the most important of all is the environmental pollution that nuclear waste produces. In case of small discrepancies I see huge catastrophic dilemmas for many years to come. People will born with only one eye or hand!!

2. Today, someone e-mail me said do you know what analogy of nuclear energy in Iran and boyfriend and girlfriend. I wondered what? He answered, as having peaceful nuclear energy proliferation is our very right, having girlfriend or boyfriend also must be accepted as a very legal right of us!!!:-)

3. Regarding sanction: as we know no economic sanctions may have any positive affect on Iran. People become poorer and state people getting richer! Any kind of sanction will make people weaker and put them more on jeopardy. I would like to suggest this kind of sanctions, though, if ever takes place:

If you are student at a university in Iran with no relation to government or political affiliation, then simply you can travel to any part of the world and get a visa with no problem. More connection to universities and cultural centers established. More scholarship granted to students coming from Iran.

However, limit or stop giving any visa to any state related people. Try to stop them from traveling as easily as they do, now. This type of sanction directly on state of Iran may has some effect, otherwise nothing will happen.
In any case, I know since Americans don’t enjoy the reality, so these kind of sanctions never takes place!!

still bla bla ing!:-)

1. Ms. Nyx has left me a comment suggesting, is that why you wish to have a partner, so you can pass my household responsibility to her?! the answer is: yes, indeed it is!! I love cooking. today I was feeling good, so I made for my dinner pretty cool thing! However, I am more than happy to pass ironing to someone with experiences:)

2. I am not sure, if anyone recalled Modern talking group? One of the pop-duo whose name Thomas Anders is.
Anyhow, he has released a new CD I kinda liked one of the songs called: songs that live forever.
click on his site, here and listen to it.

the lyrics is not bad either:

"Songs That Live Forever"

Songs that live on forever
Melodies that don't stop haunting you

Turn up the volume
just a little bit more
the music sounds familiar
I've heard it all before
Yesterday's music
still makes my heart swing
and I can't help myself
but start to sing

All the songs that live on forever
The melodies don’t stop haunting you
All the songs that live on forever
We’ll take the old
And make it new

Turn up the volume
Just a little bit more
Music sounds familiar
I’ve heard it all before

All the songs that live on forever
The melodies don’t stop haunting you
All the songs that live on forever
We’ll take the old
And make it new

Music has power to bring tears to your eyes
and just like magic puts a smile back on your face
let this song go around the globe
unite the human race
music makes this world
a better place

All the Songs that live on forever…

International women's day!

1. It is nice to name everyday of the year to be named after an occasion!
today is International women's day! I wish to congratulate to
all women in the world this occasion and remind them, doing house work is not a
bad thing or disadvantage! It is just a work and if you are good at it, good for you!
I have been doing my house work(i.e. cooking, laundry, cleaing, ironing(okh, okh!), shopping for many years). So, I know how it feels and it feels great:))

2. This is hilarious!! have a look at this link!
it is called Iranian rave, first I sawi it in Hamid's weblog. I laughed so much that I fall from chair!!

How is life in house number 15, or Andar ahvalate khaneh shomareh 15

Fasnacht
The soap opera of our house is in full swing. The polish girl in love with German guy! I have good relations with them. and the rest are as follows:

I have learn in life, when you tend to avoid something, that thing exactly appears on you!
On this house I am living, there are two more rooms in my floor!
There used to be Dutch girl and a Spanish guy living in those rooms! Complaining about Spanish guy!!
However, I have now two brand new roommates that are incredibly amazing!
There is that Chinese guy who comes in only late late night and spends the entire day along side that Chinese woman. This is not according to me, it is according to people who see them. Since the guy goes to her place another guest house and cooks for her! (report came to me by others)
Problem with him is that he really smells like garlic, and spices!! Whenever he goes to the washroom, you have to open the window for 5 minutes to get some fresh air. Even he is going just to brush his teeth!! Otherwise, you can’t tolerate the air inside the washroom.
Three other problems with him are:
He never sits when urinates, so, the entire service is pissed and looks yellowish!
The second problem is he never puts down the cap of the service.
The third one is he snores like there is no tomorrow!! From around 2:00 am to 5:00 am at least!!
Add to this scenery a brand new Indian women (I think she is in her 30) who smells 100 times spicier and traditional than Chinese guy. She just moved in to my floor from a city near Delhi!!!! Bora kapour!! (joking don’t know his city name!)
Her problem:
1. She burns strange herbals in her room that they stink.
2. She smells like spice
3. she makes very very very spicy food in the kitchen
4. when goes to washroom, washroom smells like made in India! she uses very traditional soaps that a smell is a killer. She is also doesn’t close the cap of the washroom service.
5. add to this all, her very heavy Indian accent! I am dirty(30) , my wife is dirty(30), too!!
So, you see how beautiful is the life!

Fasnacht, Carnival

I was on the weekend in Basel for the Fasnacht (i.e.carnival). They have apparently the largest carvonial in Switzerland. So, a guy I know here suggested that we should go there as he knows one of this associatin who are apparently for economy and social sciences trainees has made a occasion and people can attned.
I am not sure, somehow I couldn't add more photos.
It was a great learning process.
How people can have social happiness rather than social cry!
...
It has been snowing for past 4 days and it is still snowing! so, far I think we have had about 60 cm at least of snow and it is still coming!

And a song from pink floyd, I kinda like:
Hey you,
Out there in the cold,
Getting lonely, getting old,
Can you feel me?
Hey you,
Standing in the aisle,
With itchy feet and fading smile,
Can you feel me?
Hey you,
Don't help them to bury the light.
Don't give in without a fight.

Hey you,
Out there on your own,
Sitting naked by the phone,
Would you touch me?
Hey you,
With your ear against the wall,
Waiting for someone to call out,
Would you touch me?
Hey you,
Would you help me to carry the stone?
Open your heart, I'm coming home.

But it was only fantasy.
The wall was too high, as you can see.
No matter how he tried he could not break free.
And the worms ate into his brain.

Hey you,
Out there on the road,
Always doing what you're told,
Can you help me?
Hey you,
Out there beyond the wall,
Breaking bottles in the hall,
Can you help me?
Hey you,
Don't tell me there's no hope at all.
Together we stand, divided we fall.

No comment, you be the judge!

1. Apparently US government wants to spend about 75 million dollors to promote democtacy in Iran. I have been thinking who will receive the money?
I think I as a promoter of democracy should receive a portion of it:)))

2. American are funny. they are estabilishing the following office to promote democracy!Office of Iran Affairs to 'facilitate change in Iranian policies. I think the word comes to mind is Jalal khalegh!!

3. Apparently, this book has been published under new Iranian state.
it is called calender for couples. you be the judge and I make no comment.
This is the link
becasue I thought many may not be able to see it I cut and paste it here.
I have to tell you I don't know manu of the words!

اثر بي نظير ارزشي

هفته گذشته اثري در قم منتشر شد با جلد چهار رنگ و صفحات داخلي دو رنگ تحت عنوان "تقويم زناشويي". اين کتاب که در تيراژ صد هزار جلد به چاپ رسيده، در قم گردآوري، تنظيم، طراحي و با مجوز ارشاد اسلامي قم،منتشر شده است. ناشر اين تقويم، که يکي از مراکز مورد حمايت دولتي و قضايي است، با اشاره به داشتن حق كپي رايت مندرجات اين تقويم، نسبت به كساني كه قصد اقتباس و يا استفاده از مطالب آن را كه از حليه المتقين و رساله هاي عمليه مراجع، گرفته شده هشدار داده است. حليه المتقين مجموعه اي از روايات درباره مسائل مختلف مذهبي است که بخشي آن به مسائل جنسي اختصاص دارد و بسياري از کارشناسان ديني، بخش بزرگي از مندرجات آن را نامعتبر مي دانند.

در تقويم زناشويي، چهار بخش در بين فصول مختلف در نظر گرفته شده كه نگاه به آن خالي از لطف نيست. بخش اول به موضوع خواستگاري اختصاص دارد، و پس از يک مقدمه کوتاه، تعريف خواستگاري به روايتي از امام صادق در باره نماز و دعاي خواستگاري امدهو از قول امام صادق گفته شده است: "هرگاه كسي اراده خواستگاري نمايد دو ركعت نماز بگذارد و حمد و ثناي الهي گويد و دعايي كه از صفحه 93 حليه المتقين نقل شده بخواند." در اين بخش همچنين ضمن "نهي انجام عمل جنسي در روزهاي قمر در عقرب" و تاكيد بر نهي عمل آن در ساير روايات اسلامي، در مورد ملاك انتخاب همسر روايتي نقل شده مبني بر اينکه: "زن باكره اي را بخواهيد كه فرزندان بسيار بياورد و سرينيش بزرگ باشد."

بخش دوم به بحث درباره آميزش جنسي اختصاص دارد، و با نقل رواياتي آمده: "هنگام آميزش با همسر فوري بر روي او قرار نگيريد و عمل دخول را انجام ندهيد" بلکه "پيش از آن با لمس زن، با او بازي و خوش طبعي كنيد زيرا اين عمل آميزش را براي شما پاكيزه تر و گواراتر مي كند." در اين بخش توصيه شده كه "هنگام دخول روبه قبله و يا پشت به قبله نباشيد" و با نهي آميزش به شكل ايستاده آورده است: "چهارپايان اين گونه جماع مي كنند و اگر فرزندي در آن هنگام بهم رسد مانند الاغ بر تخت خود بول مي كند."

در اين کتاب همچنين آميزش در شب اول ماه رمضان مستحب دانسته شده اما "فرزند حاصل از آميزش در شب عيد قربان را داراي شش و يا چهار انگشت در دست" دانسته و توصيه كرده "براي اينكه فرزند چشم چپ نشود به هنگام بعداز ظهر جماع نكنيد." "پشت بام و زير درخت ميوه دار "از جمله مکان هايي است که در اين تقويم به عنوان مكان هاي نامناسب براي آميزش ذكر شده و "فرزند حاصل از آميزش بر روي پشت بام را فرزندي منافق" و "فرزند حاصل از آميزش زير درخت ميوه دار را جلاد، آدمكش و يا كاهن و جادوگر "توصيف كرده و "فرزند حاصل از جماع در برابر نور خورشيد را همواره در نكبت و فقر" توصيف كرده است.

بخش سوم تقويم زناشويي به تغذيه جنسي پرداخته و به معرفي مواد غذايي كه شهوت را زياد مي كند پرداخته است كه برخي از نمونه هايش چنين اند:
"خوردن انار نطفه مرد را زياد مي كند و فرزند را زيبا مي گرداند."
" انجير را خشك و تر بخوريد كه جماع را مي افزايد."
"پياز بخوريد كه سه خاصيت در آن هست بوي دهان را پاك مي كند، لثه را محكم مي نمايد و بر نطفه و قدرت جماع مي افزايد."
"خوردن تره بعد از غذا مدر حيض، مقوه كمر و محرك باه مي باشد و نيروي جنسي را تحريك مي كند."
"دم كرده گياه زعفران محرك قوه جنسي مي باشد."
"روغن زيتون نطفه مرد را زياد مي كند."
" مداومت در مصرف كاسني به هر كسي كه دوست دارد ثروت و اولادش زياد شود سفارش شده."
"تخم كاهو سرد و خشك و مانع احتلام و سيلان مني مي باشد."
"هر كس كدو را با عدس بخورد وقتي كه خدا يادش آيد دلش نازك گردد و جماع او بيشتر مي شود".
"به زنهاي حامله كندر بخورانيد زيرا آنكه در شكمش هست اگر پسر باشد دانا، شجاع و قلب او پاك باشد و اگر دختر باشد صورت و سيرتش خوب مي شود و اطراف رانش بزرگ و نزد همسرش محبوب و سعادتمند مي باشد".
" خوردن هويج كليه را گرم و آلت رجليت را بلند مي نمايد".
"علاوه بر خوردني ها گياه حنا به عنوان خضاب اسلام و سيد گلها در دنيا و آخرت مي باشد و اين گياه باعث افزايش قدرت جماع مي شود".

در بخش چهارم اين اثر كه به حقوق زن و شوهر بر يكديگر مي پردازد "يكي از حقوق شوهر بر زن را مضايقه نكردن از نزديكي موقع اراده شوهر حتي بر پشت پالان شتر" آورده است.

علاوه بر اين در اين تقويم ارزشي در روزهاي مختلف توصيه هاي مختلفي در باره تاكيد و يا نهي از عمل آميزش جنسي از قول بزرگان دين نقل شده است.در حالي كه بارها و بارها در اين اثر به زنان توصيه شده که در خدمت به مرد و خود را تسليم مرد كردن در عمل جنسي کوتاهي نکنند، وظيفه آن ها را به طور متقابل بيان نكرده و فقط به چند سطر آن هم نظافت، خوشبويي، گشاده رويي، كمك به زن در انجام امور منزل، مهرباني و خوش اخلاقي با او و تحمل و بردباري پيرامون حرفهاي نارواي زن بسنده كرده است.

يک بام و دو هوا

هر هفته از سوي ائمه جمعه و يا برخي نمايندگان مجلس از گسترش بي بند و باري و فحشا در جامعه سخن گفته مي شود. در هفته هاي اخير موجي از اعتراض توسط نزديکان دولت نسبت به فيلم ها و کتاب هاي غيرخودي ها هم به راه افتاده است. با اين همه ظاهرا از نظر مقامات وزارت ارشاد، دوستان خودي مي توانندهرکاري بکنند. رياست اداره ارشاد اسلامي قم، بر عهده حجت الاسلام حميد رسايي از نزديكان مصباح يزدي، و مسئول دفتر جريان شناسي تاريخ معاصر است. او از جمله افرادي بود كه با نوشتن كتاب و سخنراني هاي متعدد، بخصوص در زمان تحصن نمايندگان مجلس ششم در زمان رد صلاحيت گسترده نمايندگان، اتهاماتي را به نمايندگان و روزنامه نگاران اصلاح طلب وارد کرد.

وي سال گذشته و در زمان حضور احمد مسجد جامعي وزير پيشين ارشاد در نمايشگاهي درقم به طرف وي حمله ور شد و به گفته شاهدان عيني ضرباتي هم نثار وزير وقت ارشاد كرد. حمله فيزيکي رسايي به مسجد جامعي تنها زماني پايان گرفت که برخي ماموران و مسئولان وقت اداره اطلاعات قم با دخالت خود، از شدت گرفتن ضرب و شتم وزير ارشاد جلوگيري کردند. اين در حالي است كه چه در زمان وزارت مسجد جامعي و چه مهاجراني، مديران منصوب مصطفي ميرسليم بر اداره ارشاد قم رياست مي کردند.

حالا اما رسايي خود به مدير کلي ارشاد اسلامي قم منصوب شده و تقويم زناشويي يکي از نمونه هاي آثار ارزشي مورد نظر اوست که در شمارگان 100 هزاري منتشر شده است.

Always prepar for changes!

Today, I don't feel so great must be the ambient. for past week it has got pretty cold here and it is grey, all most all the time.

have a look at this link. The ex-speaker of Taleban regime is now starting to study in Yale university in US! yop, things changes! one day you do this, another day, you do other things!
TALEBAN ex-speaker in Yale UNI.

who is the boss

1. First of all, getting rid of an addiction is not that easy, especially if you are addicted to the main part of it, that is writing! I know my writing is horrible but hey, I think I write for myself and I never started to write to get recognized or anything like that! So, what I shall do slowly reduce this addiction, writing less ans less here. and other remedies!:-)
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2. I am sure you have heard this Phil Collins song known as both side of story:

"Though we might hate to admit it, there are always two sides to every story...

Find yourself in the gutter in a lonely part of town
where death waits in the darkness with a weapon to cut some stranger down
sleeping with an empty bottle, he's a sad and an empty hearted man
all he needs is a job, and a little respect, so he can get out while he can

We always need to hear both sides of the story

A neighbourhood peace is shattered it's the middle of the night
young faces hide in the shadows, while they watch their mother and father fight
he says she's been unfaithful, she says her love for him has gone
and the brother shrugs to his sister and says "looks like it's just us from now on"

We always need to hear both sides of the story

And the lights are all on, the world is watching now
people looking for truth, we must not fail them now
be sure, before we close our eyes
don't walk away from here
'til you hear both sides

Here we are all gathered in what seems to be the centre of the storm
neighbours once friendly now stand each side of the line that has been drawn
they've been fighting here for years, but now there's killing on the streets
while small coffins are lined up sadly, now united in defeat

We always need to hear both sides of the story

White man turns the corner, finds himself within a different world
ghetto kid grabs his shoulder, throws him up against the wall
he says "would you respect me if I didn't have this gun
'cos without it, I don't get it, and that's why I carry one"

We always need to hear both sides of the story

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Having said that, I was talking to a Swiss person who feels that Bush and their
allies should not conduct any force on Iran if Iran wishes to pursue perlification of atomic energy.

I have been thinking if we were American’s state and Iran was like America and America was like Iran wouldn’t we also have imposed the same force and sanction until our means are attained!?

What do I mean exactly is the fact that in this world no country worries about another. We as small but rigorous people have effect of our image in the world. However, our state, has larger effect in the world representing our images.
If we wish to do anything about it we should do it ourselves. Take responsibility and show that we are capable of taking responsibility in eyes of world. We should listen and then react. Not just react and then become deaf!

Switzerland is a small country, about 7 million of population is the total number of people they have.
I read an article in the local newspaper, that they are in process of planning for their next 20 years!! According to mem (something like association of all technicians and engineers in Switzerland) Switzerland will have shortage of engineers for next few years. So, they have to compensate for that. Plans are underway.
In order to be more powerful in research and innovation they are setting up centers that will focus on certain science fields at every corner of this country. They have learned they have great scientists and engineer but they are theorist, they can’t solve problem and bring together the theory and industry. So, to turn this up side down they are accepting people from around world especially North America, where we learn how to solve problem, than being geniuses. So, they are serious to rectify these problems. They are very serious to get more share of what they already have in the world.
I am sure you have heard of Nestles, Novartis, and Reusch! These are just a few companies Switzerland is known for. But I bet many of you were not aware that these are Swiss companies!
Swiss country is very quiet in the world of politics. That is why, I think first we should stabilize our status and position in the world then start shouting and commending others what to do and what not to do!