Saturday, January 29, 2005

Little things counts!

1.I have been thinking that whenever I talk to a couple who have recently got married. The guys complain about the limits have been set on them after getting married. Some even go further and described it as being in prison or having chain on their legs!! However, I hardly hear complains of a married woman about any kind of limitations! I always wonder why?

2.An old guy opened up his heart to a young man. The young man noticed that the old man’s heart was consisted of broken pieces and pieces that do not fit in the right places! The young guy perceives and pointed out the old man’s missing pieces on his heart. The old guy said:
You meet up with many people along your life. For every person you meet you give them a piece of your heart and replace that piece in your heart with a piece you receive from their heart. This way they are always part of your heart. The pieces you see that are not fit or are empty in my heart are the pieces that I have given but I have not received anything for replacement!

3.Little things count in a relationship. I honestly believe in it. Do not need to spend lots of money or buy him/her something to fascinate him/her. Just do the things that help your partner to acknowledge your cooperation and understanding. Give him/her space and you will see the miracle!

Two photos:


Mount Tochal


A group of hawkers in Vali Asr Ave.

Tuesday, January 18, 2005

Young, Old, Retirement, and democracy!

I have noticed that in Iran age of retirement does not technically exist. Look at our government and state figures and in particular an entity called “Canceller of Guardians”. By looking at their age it simply reveals that their average age is over 65 years old!! This is surprising in a country that about 70% of its working force is youngster that their age is among 19-29 groups.
Are they afraid of the fact that young generation is not going to be bonded to revolution’s principles?
From psychological point of view, older people are always saying that young are not what they were. The same comment is made from generation to generation and it is always true. Today, comparing to the old time, young are better educated they have better means to analyze problems and they have more freedom to think. They get exposed more to one another opinion because of utilizing new technologies, and most important of all, they get a chance to look into matters from different point of views because of this easy information and ideas swapping.

Today, because of fast growing of technology, we percept this differences more vividly.
The young grow up faster and experience responsibility much earlier than their parents. The old always assume that they know best for the simple reason that they have been in this world longer. They do not want that their values being questioned or threatened.
And this is precisely what the young are doing. They questioning the assumptions of their elders and disturbing their complacency. A generation ago our precedence took the matters into their hands and decided for us; they choose revolution and war. Should not we question the rightfulness of their decision making?

The old are used to emphasize on solitary decision making. For instance, head of a family or state would think what is good or bad for the entire family and citizens without much of consultancy. I always wonder why the previous generation used so much violence when they could easily solve problems through negotiation and tolerance. Traditionally, the young generation has looked into elders for guidance. Today, the situation can be reversed. One of facts that they can learn from youngsters is the fact that enjoyment is not sinful. Enjoyment is principle one could apply to all aspects of life. It is surely not wrong to live in present time and get synchronized with world and enjoy life. As today someone put it “we should help the living for sake of death.”

A first hand experience I can provide is from my own father. My father who is around age of 72 and still trying to make himself busy with jobs that are perhaps not very appropriate for him to follow up at this age per say! I have told him a few times, why do not you let me take care of them, and his respond is sure, I let you do it, but can you do it!? What I realized is the fact that he wants me to follow his shoes in doing or directing any given job. If I do otherwise, it is not technically considered the job is being done!! Something I personally refuse to do is to follow up my parents’ way of solution to provided problems.

I wish to relate what I said to the fact that our mentality is not democratically developed. That is why many parents wish to directly, or indirectly get their children do what they wish them to do. This at heart is against democracy. Many of Iranians, not all, pretend to be democratic but at their hearts they are not. Pretending to be an advocate of social equality and group decision making but at their heart being far from it. This is what they have been grown up with. So, starting from our family why not practicing democracy right at home with family and friends. So, as it has been said “everything runs in family”!

2. I travel almost everyday with taxi. I am beginning to conclude that many women are self-conceit or selfish. Once I was sitting at back of the taxi where 3 adults have difficult time to fit in. A woman put up her purse between me and herself taking some room that I could use to not lay on the guy beside me. This problem has occurred to me several times!

Saturday, January 08, 2005

A trip to Ahvaz

1. I received an opportunity to take a trip to Ahvaz on behalf of where I work. Ahvaz is located on south west corner of Iran and it has hot and humid climate. This is the best time of the year to be there. In the morning the temperature raised to around 21 degrees and at night it dropped back to 8 to 9 degrees. Humidity was not more than 55% which is considered comfort zone for human.
I stayed at a place that was located in Kian pars. Apparently, Kian pars is considered a high class area in Ahvaz. It was quite interesting for me to see that the locals are feeling cold and try to keep the heaters on during such spring type weather. I was in Ahvaz for a irrigation project that is supposed to draw water from Karkheh river and convey it to the farmland for the farmers. Apparently this project has started about three years ago, yet to be finished! And at least 2 to 3 months hard word to finish preliminary work of construction and cement reinforcement. Have a look at the following picture taken from famous suspension bridge of Ahvaz on Karoon river.



and this one from Emaam Bazaar.

2. Yesterday afternoon I was going out and right by Velenjak gas station I saw two young dudes are fighting with a guy who has come out from passenger side of a Paykan with his belt waving in the air. What shameful scenery! It made me to be made. I saw so many fights on the street everyday that I honestly feel worst to be in Tehran! No, logic and ability to live and work side by side!